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Working As An Adult Entertainer

Thursday, September 22nd, 2011

Pat Shannahan for msnbc.com

Carla couldn’t find work in the legal profession, so she’s dancing in a topless bar now.

 

 

When Carla graduated 10 years ago, she thought her law degree would be a permanent ticket to a high-paying job.  But instead of selling her mind, Carla is selling her body. After student loans, debt, a layoff and unemployment battered her bank account, she now finds herself in an almost unbelievable position – dancing in a topless bar.

“Did I ever think I’d be taking my top off for rent money? No. I was in my mid-30s and had never danced before,” said Carla, who asked that we use her stage name and withhold her identity and some personal details. “As a little girl, I never thought to myself, ‘I just want to grow up and be a stripper,’ or, ‘All I ever wanted to do in life is climb in the lap of sweaty stranger and take my top off.’

“But, with our economy the way it is, especially in smaller cities … you strip or you starve,” she said.

Carla grew up in the Midwest and moved to the West Coast in the late ‘90s to fulfill her dream of earning her law degree. After graduation, she worked for nine years putting her degree to use, but she had entered the crowded legal profession at the wrong time. When she was laid off in 2009, she couldn’t find work. 

Last month, as part of our coverage of America’s economic malaise, we chronicled the story of a young father who took a job as a firefighter in Iraq after he couldn’t find work in Miami. Then we asked msnbc.com readers: What crazy things are you doing to make ends meet? This is the second of three reader stories we’ll share. Last week, we wrote about a man who has turned to dumpster diving to keep food on the table for his three children.  Now, we tell Carla’s story.

“At first, I worked as a waitress, and a cashier in gas station,” she said.

“I went around to see if could get a job as cocktail waitress, but there was not a single retail or waitress job.  No one was hiring, except for the topless places,” she said.  “It was an act of desperation.”

‘Act of desperation’
As her prospects grew dim, she went back to school to earn a master’s degree, hoping to bolster her credentials. But her financial aid came in lower than expected, her credit was battered and she struggled to find part-time work in her new town to keep her afloat.

She started out serving drinks as a waitress, but moved quickly to dancing “because that’s where the money is, and that’s what I needed.”

On an average day, she earns $20 an hour, but on a good weekend night, she might pull in $50 an hour –enough to get her finances back on track. She can set her own hours, which means she can squeeze in reading and writing papers around her work schedule.

“Sometimes it sucks, it’s degrading and I hate it, but it is necessary right now and I’m glad I have the option of doing it,” Carla said. “My parents and a few friends know and they were horrified at first. But now they are proud of me for sucking it up and doing what I have to do.”

Carla has set her limits, as does the topless bar she works in.  She stays away from private rooms even though women can make $500 to $100o a night there.

Local rules allow lap dances- as long as the patrons don’t touch the dancers- and Carla sometimes performs them.  The bar doesn’t have a full nudity license, and that’s just as well with Carla: She’d need a personal license to work at a place like that and she wants no record of her temporary stint in the dancing business.

“While I am proud of making a living by any legal means available to me, I realize that some will think of me as just a glorified legal prostitute and I would very much like to move on with my life and career at the earliest available opportunity,” she said.

Ugly moments

Despite these precautions, Carla sad she has had her share of ugly moments. Not all men follow the rules; some have tried to over power her and “grab her, bite her, kiss her, or get their hands under the bottoms (I) wear.”  Bouncers come to her aid, but they can’t be everywhere all the time

“I’ve had men overcome me,” She said. “Luckily help has arrived and nothing has happened. But I have been scared.”

Carla agreed to talk about her experience in part because she said it has been profound- in one sense, the job is less hostile than any law office she’s worked in, she said.  Coming from the cutthroat legal profession, she has been stunned by the camaraderie among the women she work with.

“I thought the other women I worked with would be competitive and not supportive.  We are ‘Fighting” over the same dollars,” She said.  ”But my female coworkers are the best coworkers I’ve ever had.”

Many are in the same situation she is, she said: forced by their economic situation to perform work they would have never considered in the past. 

“I work with war widows, a nurse, a med student, women who have had to go to work to save their home after their husbands have lost their jobs, and others who do this as a means to an end and who do not fit the profile of junkie/prostitute/dancer. … What we all have in common is being in a tight spot financially and living in an economy that provides limited options right now, ” she said.  “I’d be willing to bet that there are women like me working in it all over the country, out of necessity and not because our goal in life was to appear topless in front of … creepy guys.”

She’s also been horrified by the way dancers are treated by some men she encounters.

‘Some real creeps’
“I was shocked at how horribly some men treat us. I realized that I was much more naive than I thought I was,” she said. On the other hand, the bar and its patrons sometimes surprise her. “While there are some real creeps that come in, there are also some very sweet guys who are regular customers and who I genuinely enjoy knowing . The stereotype that says that only dirty old men frequent nudie bars is incorrect.”

She gets asked out often, she said, in situations that would be amusing if they weren’t so sad.

“Men aren’t quite as sneaky as they think they are,” she said.  Even in a strip club, they try to convince her that they aren’t just hunting for sex.  “They think their motivations are transparent, when they aren’t at all.”

Believe it or not, she said she feels lucky, because she has a male friend at school who’s in a similar financial situation, “but there’s no male equivalent to what I’m doing. At least I have the option,” she said.

She says she’s been humbled by the experience, too.

“I am no better than the next dancer by virtue of my education or previous work experience.  The universe has a funny way of putting a person in their place,” she said. “I have learned that I still have a lot to learn about life but now I have some incredible female mentors who continually inspire me with their courage and work ethic.”

She’s also learned to “never say never,” about things you may do in life. She’s almost finished with school, and hopes to stop dancing soon, but figures that “realistically, I’ll probably have to keep dancing until I get offered a full-time job. Which means I’ll be doing it for another six months, at least.”

When she does take a new job, she’s leaving the medium-sized city she’s in, with no plans to return.

“I cannot wait to start my life over elsewhere doing something different but I will always be grateful for the lessons I’ve learned dancing and will never again look down on anyone who works in this industry,” she said.

Lawyer Turns Topless Dancer To Pay Bill

Tuesday, September 13th, 2011

Pat Shannahan for msnbc.com

Carla couldn’t find work in the legal profession, so she’s dancing in a topless bar now.

 

 

When Carla graduated 10 years ago, she thought her law degree would be a permanent ticket to a high-paying job.  But instead of selling her mind, Carla is selling her body. After student loans, debt, a layoff and unemployment battered her bank account, she now finds herself in an almost unbelievable position – dancing in a topless bar.

“Did I ever think I’d be taking my top off for rent money? No. I was in my mid-30s and had never danced before,” said Carla, who asked that we use her stage name and withhold her identity and some personal details. “As a little girl, I never thought to myself, ‘I just want to grow up and be a stripper,’ or, ‘All I ever wanted to do in life is climb in the lap of sweaty stranger and take my top off.’

“But, with our economy the way it is, especially in smaller cities … you strip or you starve,” she said.

Carla grew up in the Midwest and moved to the West Coast in the late ‘90s to fulfill her dream of earning her law degree. After graduation, she worked for nine years putting her degree to use, but she had entered the crowded legal profession at the wrong time. When she was laid off in 2009, she couldn’t find work. 

Last month, as part of our coverage of America’s economic malaise, we chronicled the story of a young father who took a job as a firefighter in Iraq after he couldn’t find work in Miami. Then we asked msnbc.com readers: What crazy things are you doing to make ends meet? This is the second of three reader stories we’ll share. Last week, we wrote about a man who has turned to dumpster diving to keep food on the table for his three children.  Now, we tell Carla’s story.

“At first, I worked as a waitress, and a cashier in gas station,” she said.

“I went around to see if could get a job as cocktail waitress, but there was not a single retail or waitress job.  No one was hiring, except for the topless places,” she said.  “It was an act of desperation.”

‘Act of desperation’
As her prospects grew dim, she went back to school to earn a master’s degree, hoping to bolster her credentials. But her financial aid came in lower than expected, her credit was battered and she struggled to find part-time work in her new town to keep her afloat.

She started out serving drinks as a waitress, but moved quickly to dancing “because that’s where the money is, and that’s what I needed.”

On an average day, she earns $20 an hour, but on a good weekend night, she might pull in $50 an hour –enough to get her finances back on track. She can set her own hours, which means she can squeeze in reading and writing papers around her work schedule.

“Sometimes it sucks, it’s degrading and I hate it, but it is necessary right now and I’m glad I have the option of doing it,” Carla said. “My parents and a few friends know and they were horrified at first. But now they are proud of me for sucking it up and doing what I have to do.”

Carla has set her limits, as does the topless bar she works in.  She stays away from private rooms even though women can make $500 to $100o a night there.

Local rules allow lap dances- as long as the patrons don’t touch the dancers- and Carla sometimes performs them.  The bar doesn’t have a full nudity license, and that’s just as well with Carla: She’d need a personal license to work at a place like that and she wants no record of her temporary stint in the dancing business.

“While I am proud of making a living by any legal means available to me, I realize that some will think of me as just a glorified legal prostitute and I would very much like to move on with my life and career at the earliest available opportunity,” she said.

Ugly moments

Despite these precautions, Carla sad she has had her share of ugly moments. Not all men follow the rules; some have tried to over power her and “grab her, bite her, kiss her, or get their hands under the bottoms (I) wear.”  Bouncers come to her aid, but they can’t be everywhere all the time

“I’ve had men overcome me,” She said. “Luckily help has arrived and nothing has happened. But I have been scared.”

Carla agreed to talk about her experience in part because she said it has been profound- in one sense, the job is less hostile than any law office she’s worked in, she said.  Coming from the cutthroat legal profession, she has been stunned by the camaraderie among the women she work with.

“I thought the other women I worked with would be competitive and not supportive.  We are ‘Fighting” over the same dollars,” She said.  ”But my female coworkers are the best coworkers I’ve ever had.”

Many are in the same situation she is, she said: forced by their economic situation to perform work they would have never considered in the past. 

“I work with war widows, a nurse, a med student, women who have had to go to work to save their home after their husbands have lost their jobs, and others who do this as a means to an end and who do not fit the profile of junkie/prostitute/dancer. … What we all have in common is being in a tight spot financially and living in an economy that provides limited options right now, ” she said.  “I’d be willing to bet that there are women like me working in it all over the country, out of necessity and not because our goal in life was to appear topless in front of … creepy guys.”

She’s also been horrified by the way dancers are treated by some men she encounters.

‘Some real creeps’
“I was shocked at how horribly some men treat us. I realized that I was much more naive than I thought I was,” she said. On the other hand, the bar and its patrons sometimes surprise her. “While there are some real creeps that come in, there are also some very sweet guys who are regular customers and who I genuinely enjoy knowing . The stereotype that says that only dirty old men frequent nudie bars is incorrect.”

She gets asked out often, she said, in situations that would be amusing if they weren’t so sad.

“Men aren’t quite as sneaky as they think they are,” she said.  Even in a strip club, they try to convince her that they aren’t just hunting for sex.  “They think their motivations are transparent, when they aren’t at all.”

Believe it or not, she said she feels lucky, because she has a male friend at school who’s in a similar financial situation, “but there’s no male equivalent to what I’m doing. At least I have the option,” she said.

She says she’s been humbled by the experience, too.

“I am no better than the next dancer by virtue of my education or previous work experience.  The universe has a funny way of putting a person in their place,” she said. “I have learned that I still have a lot to learn about life but now I have some incredible female mentors who continually inspire me with their courage and work ethic.”

She’s also learned to “never say never,” about things you may do in life. She’s almost finished with school, and hopes to stop dancing soon, but figures that “realistically, I’ll probably have to keep dancing until I get offered a full-time job. Which means I’ll be doing it for another six months, at least.”

When she does take a new job, she’s leaving the medium-sized city she’s in, with no plans to return.

“I cannot wait to start my life over elsewhere doing something different but I will always be grateful for the lessons I’ve learned dancing and will never again look down on anyone who works in this industry,” she said.

New Hot Outfits By Kinky and Dazzle

Friday, June 10th, 2011

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Are Going to Strip Clubs Cheating?

Friday, June 10th, 2011

Well I have been around strip clubs for over half my life and have often wondered what others thought about the concept of is it considered cheating when going to strip clubs.

When it comes to men’s favorite pastimes such as sports, cars, naked women ranked in the top three.  While taking part in the first two may cause a girlfriend or a wife to voice harmless complaints.  But to indulge in the last one could have you taking up residence in the doghouse.  And could be permanently…..

In some cases men have made the strip club a part of their weekly guy’s night out.  Even though their partner may not approve.

These men argue that no looking plus no touching means no cheating.  But all the while the women believe that enjoying the view of a pole dancer showing off her goodies is just plain and simply put Cheating!

So….. can you stare at a gyrating, hip thrusting G-string without having to repent with a dozen Hail Mary’s afterwards?

Give us some feed back would love your input on the subject.  Just write in the comment box and let us hear what you have to say.

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Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

 

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Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

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Dad in Stripper Pole Case To Request Change of venue

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

EASTON, Pa. — A Pennsylvania father accused of hosting a teen party featuring alcohol and a stripper pole says he can’t get a fair trial because of media coverage.

Steven A. Russo will ask a Northampton County judge for a change of venue after the judge rejected a plea agreement last month. A hearing on the request is scheduled for Friday.

The 37-year-old Bethlehem Township man was charged with corruption of minors, providing then with alcohol and other charges. He was charged after racy photos surfaced of students drinking and dancing at a stripper pole at his house.

Defense attorney Erv McLain says the story has been so sensationalized that Russo can’t get a fair trial locally.

Russo is currently in prison after being convicted of stalking an ex-girlfriend.

Akron Woman Robbed in Strip Club Parking Lot

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Police arrested a 41-year-old Akron man who allegedly robbed a woman early this morning in the parking lot of a local strip club.

Police located Kenneth Johnson of Inman Street in the 1000 block of Nadia Court after receiving a call that a 58-year-old woman was being robbed in the parking lot of the Platinum Horse Cabaret, 1027 E. Waterloo Road.

The victim told police Johnson came at her from behind shortly after midnight and knocked her down in an attempt to get her purse and car keys.

Johnson allegedly took the victim’s cell phone, which officers found in his pocket when he was arrested, police said.

Johnson was charged with robbery.

Source: Ohio.com

Stripper Wanted Plastic Surgeon To Make A Third Breast

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

plastic surgeon in Croatia has revealed that he refused to perform an operation on a stripper who wanted him to make a third breast for her.

Doctor Sinisa Glumicic told tabloid 24 Sata his client thought she would be more attractive if she had three breasts.

The surgeon said he had been shocked by the idea and refused to perform the surgery.

“She was ready to tattoo a nipple on her third breast”, the doctor from Croatian capital Zagreb commented to the tabloid.

The stripper works in Milan, Italy.

Source: Croatian Times

Stripper Gets Off The Hook

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Another lap dancer wiggles free!

The second of two strippers accused of servicing the laps they danced upon was cleared of all charges yesterday, ending a wacky Manhattan prostitution trial.

“I knew I did nothing wrong!” porn star Alexia Moore tearily said after court. “I just had to prove it!”

Back before the 2008 police raid at Big Daddy Lou’s Hot Lap Dance Club on West 38th Street, Moore had been famous for her Thursday-night girl-on-girl lesbian floor shows with dancing partner Falynn Rodriguez.

But an undercover vice cop — posing as “Ricky,” an international Mexican fabric trader — had claimed that for the right price, the two would offer even more entertainment.

During a weeklong misdemeanor trial last week, Ricky took the stand to describe reclining with the undies-clad Moore and Rodriguez on a red-draped bed in the club’s Champagne Room — a dim and dowdy little hovel with curtained “walls” hung from 2-by-4s.

Ricky testified that it was there, after a lap dance, with Rodriguez at her side, that Moore offered him a threesome for $5,000 — but at a later date and a never-agreed-upon location, with only the promise that if he e-mailed her through her porn site, she’d “get back to me.”

No such e-mail was ever sent, Ricky conceded in testimony.

Criminal Court Judge ShawnDya Simpson dismissed the case against Rodriguez outright on Friday.

Yesterday, ruling on Moore — whose real name is Cassandra Malandri — the judge declared, “The court finds the defendant not guilty.”

“She’s just an exotic dancer — that’s what she does,” defense lawyer Salvatore Strazzullo said after court.

Moore now says her dancing days are over.

She said she’s going to start “a new chapter, a new beginning — a normal job . . . Anything to do with animals.”

To which one of the photographers camped outside Manhattan Criminal Court quipped: “I’d buy that video.”

Source: SCN Jan 28, 2010